Daniell Koepke (via erosboros)
this is awesome!
no matter how bad it gets, it will not last forever.
change is one of the few things - well, it’s the only thing i can think of right now - that you can count on. you can trust change. it always arrives. even in situations and places you least expect. you know this, too.
breathing is something i needed to learn. and sometimes i still need to be reminded. ‘focusing on the breath’ has gotten me through intense pain including 4 natural births (3 outside of the hospital.) or extreme situations like the time i was 200 ft in the air working on a cellphone tower in white out conditions for 5 hours in iowa in march.
now, not mentioned here, but something equally important which is not the least bit intuitive - be thankful.
ha! i told you it wasn’t logical on the surface. and you may want to tell me to fuck off at this point. but hear me out.
things WILL change. but there is no guarantee it will get better. in fact, there is every possibility it could get worse. and whether you believe it’s possible right now, i can tell you… it can *always* get worse. always.
and it’s NOT right now. it could be worse but it isn’t. RIGHT NOW. so, be thankful for THAT! it may be so shitty you wish you were dead.
it may be so painful it’s all you can do to get the air in and out of your lungs. thoughts/emotions so bleak you wonder if you’ll ever see light again. but it could be worse. so, be grateful that it isn’t.
if i’m not in so much pain all i can do is focus on breathing
if i have room to think at all
(and i’m fortunate enough to remember it)
i say, ‘thank you.’ over and over and over again.
gratitude transforms. it’s like a catalyst.
singing is even better.
i was at mile 24 or 25 of a marathon and in a lot of pain but it hurt more to walk so i kept this slow jog going. i happened upon a woman i’d seen in my marathon training group and we trudged together. then one of her friends showed up to accompany her for the last mile. she started singing and got a group of us to join along. we sang random songs and i was astounded. because the pain vanished. and all the crappy thoughts i’d been having disappeared as well. we were all smiling and excited to be nearing the finish. except one woman who refused to sing. her face reminded me of how i’d felt just minutes before. and what a profound transformation my whole experience of the marathon had just gone through. it was like walking from the deepest moonless night into full sun at noon. drastic. and wonderful.
my youngest daughter recently pointed out that breathing out longer than you breathe in relaxes the physiology and reduces anxiety. i told her my latest strategy was to sing when things got intense for me at work. and she said, “well, you’re breathing out longer than you’re breathing in.” yep. :D
if you doubt it, test it.
if it works for you, use it.
so, unfurling exists for purely self=ish reasons. it’s to collect things i appreciate. i can look back at previous posts and remember that life is amazing. and the world is beautiful.
i’ve decided to start curating my own advice. so, if/when things get bad i can look back and remember what worked in the past. this is one of those.